The Misogyny Files – #1 The Breast & Body Image Conundrum

What’s worse than a male’s chauvinistic attitude toward women?

It is when another woman displays her chauvinistic attitude toward women.

Samantha Brett, of the Sydney Morning Herald doesn’t have any issue in using her blogging platform for the paper to share her far-reaching opinions and thoughts that teeters on the edge of encouraging women to put on a breast show in order to get further, professionally.

Brett shares with us, almost as an absolute truth, that it is far better and more effective to put your breasts on display in the workplace than it is to hold a phD.

“And when it comes to the workplace, despite the fight for equal pay and equal rights, some women (many women) know that a good push-up bra is a better investment than any PhD. Besides, it sure as hell is something no man can ever attempt to compete with, no matter how many golf games or strip-club outings they organise for prospective clients. Women simply whip on a low-cut dress, some spindly stilettos and, voila! They’re ahead of the game by a long shot.”

Seriously? I sincerely hope that this entire paragraph is a joke, for oh, so, many reasons.

Moreover, I would feel concern over such a workplace of which a man would treat prospective clients to a strip club outing in order to win their business.

Further on, Samantha Brett perpetuates a stereotypical (and fictional) attitude that smaller breasts are seen as less desirable. She informs us that she has polled a trove of women who have led her to the resolve that, in more articulate (barely) terms, going to the beach and having small boobs, like, totally sucks, ‘cos all the hot guys look at the chicks with the big boobs!!!

I don’t know about others, but when I go to the beach, usually it is to swim, to have a picnic with my girlfriends or to just enjoy the atmosphere – regardless of my bra-size, I keep myself covered up, because as Ms. Brett accurately pointed out, we are the “sun-drenched” country.

The blogger then cites a self-conscious friend as a source for evidence to confirm her silly stereotype and incredibly accurate poll (yeah, right). You need big breasts to be sexy, you need men to compliment you on them in order to feel self-confident. Okay. Right.

 Perhaps, better spent would have been some time helping this friend build some esteem before letting her go for a boob job in order to please other people.

“It’s the absolute worst being flat,” a friend said to me before she decided to opt for breast augmentation surgery. “You feel as though everyone is staring at your chest for all the wrong reasons. No men call you sexy, and you definitely don’t get any wolf whistles. It brings down your entire self-esteem.”

Among ridiculous chauvinistic comments (from her previous blogs, I assume) that she has cited in order to get her point across, I came across a gem of a man that likened breasts to jewelery.

Honestly, I was under the impression breasts had something to do with nursing…

I think, given that Samantha Brett has a public following, it would serve her interests to write more responsible articles that don’t perpetuate body image issues or encourage women to subscribe to opinions or sentiments that make them second-guess intelligence in place of looks and image.

Not only that, but raising these non-issues (or conundrums, as she likes to call them) and paying attention to the chauvinists (both men and women) who like to believe that it is their right to stare unwittingly at a woman’s chest irrespective of her size, is just encouraging and giving a voice to misogyny at its best.

But then again, what do I know? Maybe I should just get my sweater puppies out and be done with it!

You can read the entire article here – The Great Cleavage Conundrum: should men look if it’s on display? 


Beauty Review #1 – ILOVETHISBOX – February

I decided to jump on the bandwagon a little while ago with these assortments of beauty boxes that are making their rounds. One of my close friends, Dorin, shared the page of ILoveThisBox on facebook because her friend had something to do with it. It is clearly for those who love cosmetics and beauty products — I am that person! I have a huge cosmetics collection, but I stopped buying a lot of things because I stopped going out and about as much as I used to — however, I still love to sample new products.

I waited for the release of three boxes before I decided to jump aboard and subscribe. It’s $14.95 per month (you can pay month-to-month or more) and you will receive a bunch of 5-6 products that far exceed what you will be paying per month for the box. And the great thing about it, is that you don’t have to leave the house, it comes to your doorstep and there’s something exciting about getting physical mail!

The actual packaging was really cool. Obviously it’s Valentines month so this box was red and geared toward the holiday. I’m a single gal, but I don’t have any hatred or bitterness toward Valentines day. This is how the package was;

I think Ilovethisbox did a great job with the presentation, it was really cute.

Moving on to the products…

Elizabeth Arden – Red Door – $55 – 30ml, $70 – 50ml, $95 – 100ml.

The 10ml sample bottle of this Red Door perfume is really adorable. In my house there is a full 100ml bottle of Red Door already, and it doesn’t belong to me. I am a huge lover of perfumes, but I always consider Red Door to be the “old lady” perfume. (This is just my opinion, I know a lot of people who love it!) as soon as I pulled it from the box, my Mum’s eyes lit up and she made me spray it on her. She then claimed it, so this was a nice item. And if anything, I adore the purse-sized bottle.

Keratinology by Sunsilk – Overnight Treatment – Full Size 100ml – $13.95

A little while ago I saw this product in priceline and was going to buy it, but in the end I changed my mind. I still have not used it, but I have super thick, long, curly hair, naturally. If I don’t put product in it, it turns to fuzz after it is wet. When I go swimming my hair gets very easily damaged. So I will be interested to see how this goes in my hair. I have heard some great things about it. I am excited to try it! And also, impressed that this is the full sized bottle.

Rimmel Lasting Finish Kiss & Stay, Lip Gloss – Full Size Product – $14.95

This lip gloss is great! I tried it on about 4 hrs ago and haven’t had any of it rub off even though I have been drinking some water and eating a little since work. The colour is 10 – “First Kiss” I am not sure if everyone got the same colour, but I really like this one. I like the brighter, bolder colours and this is a very similar shade to my favourite Chanel 37 (Velvet allure) lipstick. I found this really easy to apply and the second gloss coat has a good feeling – sometimes glosses tend to dry and end up flaking. This is lovely. Another great product.

The Aromatherapy Co. Rose & Patchouli Sensual/Soothing range. – Full Size Product $7.95- $13.95

I am a huge fan of anything scented (that smells good) I love creams and shower gels and things where I am left smelling edible (waiting for some weirdo to come and take a bite out of my arm, hey now, he’s only human) so I was pretty happy to receive some hand and nail cream. I always take extra good care of my fingernails. I have manicures often and if I didn’t work in a cafe my nails would always be a deep red colour. I really like the scent of this too, it reminds me of musk – I am also a big fan of musk. I will probably get a lot of use out of this; again, I work in a cafe and spend a lot of the day with my hands in the sink doing dishes thus my skin dries out. This is perfect for that.  The card that I received said that it will arouse my senses… let’s wait and see for that lol!

Nail File – $4.95

This is pretty cool just for the fact that I am always misplacing nail files and I can never find one when I need it. I am sure this will end up in the special “safe” place where all my other nail files went, but I’ll enjoy it while it’s with me. The card with my box assured me that this will make my handbag look colourful and “witty” … Unless this nail file is going to find it’s way out and start telling some jokes just after I’ve made some kind of hideous social faux pas as I’m prone to doing, I’m not sure how it is going to pull off “witty”, and while it IS colourful, I am not going to be wearing it on the outside of my precious and beautiful tan-coloured Guess handbag, so…

Bonus Jelly beans!

I love red lollies, and jelly beans too! I haven’t started on these, but I have an exam tomorrow morning so I bet these will be gone by the time I roll out of bed from the all-nighter I am about to pull so I can get all my study done.

In Summary:

Over all, I am really happy with my first delivery from and I’ve inspired my Mum to join up. I feel like the products are pretty great for the money that I paid for! I loved the presentation. If I could have changed one thing it would be the nail file for the reasons I listed, also because I can’t have an inanimate object being wittier than me 😉 but everything else was wonderful! Thanks guys, great job!

If you have any questions, please ask! Or you can visit their facebook page and ask yourself! Ilovethisbox – Facebook.